Where do I begin to discuss what a wonderful woman my wife is. She is quite simply an awe inspiring mother. She has done an amazing job raising our three children.
From the moment we learned that Dylan would have issues, she has taken the lead in caring for him and arranging for all of his needs. She has dealt with the dozens of doctors that Dylan has required. She has navigated the maze of bureaucracy to get Dylan the services that he needs whether from Early Intervention, CPSE, or Medicaid. She has fought to get Dylan the equipment he will require to better service his needs.
She has dealt with all the therapists that Dylan sees on a daily basis, keeping up on what they are all doing with him. She has lavished praise on the therapists who do wonders with Dylan and gotten rid of the ones who did not know what they were doing.
She has spent countless hours working with Dylan to improve his physical and mental potential. She has insisted along with me that Dylan will not be shunned or hidden from sight. She has agreed with me that if people want to accept us, they have to accept our son.
Despite the intense time drain that having a child like Dylan entails, she has still managed to be a wonderful parent to Ethan and Ava. She tries to spend as much time as possible with all of our children. She tries her best to share her time equally among all of them so that none of them ever feel like they are ever being neglected.
She also somehow manages to fit in a full time job where she has an incredible amount of responsibility. Fortunately for her, she truly loves her job, otherwise I cannot imagine how she could maintain such a schedule.
With all this on her plate, she still manages to be a phenomenal wife as well. She is the love of my life. She still manages to devote time to our marriage. Compared to most other people, I truly feel we have a strong excellent marriage. We don't have to "work" at our marriage. It just comes to us. Much of the credit for that belongs to Melissa. Though I think I deserve a little bit of the credit as well for our great marriage (Pat myself on the back).
You hear so many stories about women who throw themselves into their disabled children and ignore the rest of the world. Melissa is not one of those women. She has somehow managed to maintain her all her responsibilities as a mother to a disabled child, a mother to 2 healthy children, a wife, and as a television news producer.
Despite everything she has done, she still feels that she does not devote enough attention to each part of her life. That is of course absolutely ridiculous. I guess this guilt she feels keeps her on her toes maintaining this balance.
Melissa is like the worlds best juggler. What she does is incredibly challenging and yet to the rest of the world she makes it look like a walk in the park.
If I did not have someone like Melissa to share the burden of raising a child like Dylan, I do not know what I would have done. Everything she does as a mother makes me want to be a better father and husband.
For all of the above reasons and for many many more, Melissa is the most important "good person" in my life...
From the moment we learned that Dylan would have issues, she has taken the lead in caring for him and arranging for all of his needs. She has dealt with the dozens of doctors that Dylan has required. She has navigated the maze of bureaucracy to get Dylan the services that he needs whether from Early Intervention, CPSE, or Medicaid. She has fought to get Dylan the equipment he will require to better service his needs.
She has dealt with all the therapists that Dylan sees on a daily basis, keeping up on what they are all doing with him. She has lavished praise on the therapists who do wonders with Dylan and gotten rid of the ones who did not know what they were doing.
She has spent countless hours working with Dylan to improve his physical and mental potential. She has insisted along with me that Dylan will not be shunned or hidden from sight. She has agreed with me that if people want to accept us, they have to accept our son.
Despite the intense time drain that having a child like Dylan entails, she has still managed to be a wonderful parent to Ethan and Ava. She tries to spend as much time as possible with all of our children. She tries her best to share her time equally among all of them so that none of them ever feel like they are ever being neglected.
She also somehow manages to fit in a full time job where she has an incredible amount of responsibility. Fortunately for her, she truly loves her job, otherwise I cannot imagine how she could maintain such a schedule.
With all this on her plate, she still manages to be a phenomenal wife as well. She is the love of my life. She still manages to devote time to our marriage. Compared to most other people, I truly feel we have a strong excellent marriage. We don't have to "work" at our marriage. It just comes to us. Much of the credit for that belongs to Melissa. Though I think I deserve a little bit of the credit as well for our great marriage (Pat myself on the back).
You hear so many stories about women who throw themselves into their disabled children and ignore the rest of the world. Melissa is not one of those women. She has somehow managed to maintain her all her responsibilities as a mother to a disabled child, a mother to 2 healthy children, a wife, and as a television news producer.
Despite everything she has done, she still feels that she does not devote enough attention to each part of her life. That is of course absolutely ridiculous. I guess this guilt she feels keeps her on her toes maintaining this balance.
Melissa is like the worlds best juggler. What she does is incredibly challenging and yet to the rest of the world she makes it look like a walk in the park.
If I did not have someone like Melissa to share the burden of raising a child like Dylan, I do not know what I would have done. Everything she does as a mother makes me want to be a better father and husband.
For all of the above reasons and for many many more, Melissa is the most important "good person" in my life...
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Oh How this entire entry touched my heart. Your wife sounds like an amazing woman.
Having a strong marriage is SO IMPORTANT when raising a special needs child. It's so easy to just fall apart. My husband has always been the rock in my life. Your statement about not having to "work" at your marriage rang so true for me too. Sure we disagree sometimes but for the most part our marriage has been strengthened since having Makily.
ditto for me too. Your wife sounds like super woman! I really can't understand people who don't become strengthened by such a trying time. I have wanted to run away many times but never because of my husband:)
What a wonderful tribute to your wife.
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